Teach Respect Don’t Spare The Rod

If we spare the rod with our children we are not being good parents. We need to discipline, but not abuse, our children. This will teach them right from wrong. A very important lesson for them to learn early. It will make them better and stronger adults.

Teaching them how to respect those around them includes their friends as well as adults. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.

I remember as a young girl in middle school visiting with a friend. I was complaining about my parents being so strict. They weren’t going to let me go to a party because they didn’t know the parents of the child having the party. My friend told me that she wished her parents cared enough to tell her no sometimes. That as long as she wasn’t in trouble they hardly seemed to care what she did. This gave me a new insight on why my parents made the rules for me. They loved me and wanted to make sure I would be safe.

When our children came along I did my best to be involved with their friends and to meet their parents. There were times I felt that I had to say no to something, but I always gave them a reason. One of those times was when our oldest asked for a new pair of tennis shoes just like her friends were getting. We went shopping and she showed me the shoes she wanted. I told her they were too expensive and took her to a different rack. She reluctantly chose a pair, but really didn’t want her friends to see them saying, “They’re ugly compared to the ones the other girls have.”

I responded, “Just wear them tomorrow and see what they say.”

When she came home from school the next day she was all smiles. “The girls thought my shoes were really cute, and wanted a pair like mine. Thanks, Mom, you were right.”

A hard lesson to learn, but she learned that you don’t have to always have what everyone else has.

What rules or lessons do you have for your children to help them grow up to be responsible and respectful adults?

Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Proverbs 13:24

Christmas Give Away

Schedule your Central Florida group for a chance to win a free copy of “This Babe So Small.”

Contact Jann at jannwmartin@gmail.com to set up a workshop.

Workshop: Parents and kids

  •  will learn the basics on how to write a story
  • write their story together
  • share their story if they would like to with the group

Story time:

  • This Babe So Small
  • questions and answers with the author
  • book signing

How Do You Teach Children Forgiveness?

1 John 1:8–9 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.[1]

 

 

Forgiveness is such an amazing  gift from God. It is also hard to accept this for ourselves and even harder to teach a child how to forgive.

Let’s start with verse eight we have to accept that we are sinful by nature. We are born into sin. A newborn baby sins because they only think of themselves and their needs. It will take a few years to learn to think of others needs and not just theirs. They will need to experience right and wrong so they can make knowledgeable choices. Then it is possible to teach a child how to forgive.

 

In verse nine we begin to teach children forgiveness by telling them that they need to ask God to forgive them for something that they did wrong.

I learned that lesson when I was about five. The neighbors bush had pretty white flowers that would make into a beautiful brides bouquet for my pretend wedding. It all went well until Mom asked me where I got the flowers. Then she asked if had gone to Mrs. Adcock and to see if I could pick them. Finding out that I hadn’t she walked me over to apologize for picking the flowers.

This is where we can begin to teach children forgiveness. At times they will hurt someone or take something that doesn’t belong to them; it’s natural for these things to happen. Your next step is to teach them to go to the person that they hurt or took one of their things and to apologize to them. Later, when you are alone with your child, talk to them about why they need to ask for forgiveness.

You can also bring up a time when they were hurt or had something taken from them. Ask them how they felt when they were hurt or their toy was taken away. This incident can now be used as teaching a child how to forgive. Have then tell you how they felt when the other child asked for forgiveness. Explain that their friend would also feel better when they were asked to forgive your child for something that had happened.

 

Now, you can tell your child that God will forgive them for the things that they have done wrong too. They should now say a prayer and ask God to forgive them and that they are sorry for doing something that they shouldn’t have done.

What are your experiences in teaching a child how to forgive?

[1] The New King James Version. (1982). (1 Jn 1:8–9). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.

 

Children’s Writing Workshop

Schedule your workshop today:

I teach a Children’s Writing Workshop. There four stages in which they learn to write: Modeled, Shared, Guided, and Independent. The children will practice each stage of writing. Send me a message and I will schedule a date and time to work with your students.

The Word of God

The Word of God is the most important thing we can teach our children. We need to show them how that Word is part of every aspect of our daily lives.

When I get up in the morning the first thing I do is to say a prayer of thanks for bringing me through the night, and ask what God wants me to do today. Saying a prayer over each meal is also important in thanking God for the nourishment of the food to be eaten. As I meet the challenges through the day I ask for guidance. Then before I go to sleep I say the Lord’s Prayer and lift up each member of my family and others that are on my prayer list.

It’s important to lift our daily concerns and joys to God. If we pray without ceasing we will always be in God’s presence. This is something we should share with our children and grandchildren. They need to learn about God, and what he has done for us. They need to know of his great love for all of his people.

Gather your children and pray with them first thing in the morning. Let them add things that they are concerned, or excited about. Encourage them to pray during the day if they are struggling or excited about something. Remind them to pray when they eat their meals away from home.

At the dinner table let each of them add something of their day to the prayer. Use the meal time to talk with them and help them with any difficulties. Then at bedtime pray with each child and encourage them to thank God for watching over them through the day. Remind them that God is interested in everything that happens to them every minute of every day.

What other ways can you share God with your children?

 

Tyndale House Publishers. (2013). Holy Bible: New Living Translation (Dt 11:19). Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers.

 

Teacher’s Conferences

South Carolina Association of Christian Schools Convention

I attended the SCACS  http://christianeducation.org/ Convention last week. I met some wonderful people. I was able to teach two classes, “Helping Children Become Better Writers,” and “Do You Want To Be A Published Author?” Both classes were fun and the students were full of questions and suggestions for the other teachers.

I have a whole new group of friends to interact with and help the children become better writers. I’m always looking for new ideas to share on getting children excited about writing their stories.

Many of the teachers will be working with me through email to help them learn more about where to look for help in their writing as well. It was exciting to hear what they have already started to write. I pray that they will find the connections to gain agents and publishers.

Teaching something you have experience in is fun, a chance to meet new people, and an opportunity for you to learn more in your field. As you do research to prepare for your class quite often you come across something new, this helps you and the class when you share.

I have taught at the Florida League of Christian Schools https://www.lcs.education for four years and this was a wonderful opportunity for me at the South Carolina Association of Christian Schools Convention. I would love to go to other states and share these classes and hopefully more in the future. Do you have a conference where I can meet you?