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Teach Respect Don’t Spare The Rod

If we spare the rod with our children we are not being good parents. We need to discipline, but not abuse, our children. This will teach them right from wrong. A very important lesson for them to learn early. It will make them better and stronger adults.

Teaching them how to respect those around them includes their friends as well as adults. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect.

I remember as a young girl in middle school visiting with a friend. I was complaining about my parents being so strict. They weren’t going to let me go to a party because they didn’t know the parents of the child having the party. My friend told me that she wished her parents cared enough to tell her no sometimes. That as long as she wasn’t in trouble they hardly seemed to care what she did. This gave me a new insight on why my parents made the rules for me. They loved me and wanted to make sure I would be safe.

When our children came along I did my best to be involved with their friends and to meet their parents. There were times I felt that I had to say no to something, but I always gave them a reason. One of those times was when our oldest asked for a new pair of tennis shoes just like her friends were getting. We went shopping and she showed me the shoes she wanted. I told her they were too expensive and took her to a different rack. She reluctantly chose a pair, but really didn’t want her friends to see them saying, “They’re ugly compared to the ones the other girls have.”

I responded, “Just wear them tomorrow and see what they say.”

When she came home from school the next day she was all smiles. “The girls thought my shoes were really cute, and wanted a pair like mine. Thanks, Mom, you were right.”

A hard lesson to learn, but she learned that you don’t have to always have what everyone else has.

What rules or lessons do you have for your children to help them grow up to be responsible and respectful adults?

Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. Proverbs 13:24