There is hope in raising our children in this crazy world. With unconditional love, our love that doesn’t judge, we can’t give enough. We can’t spoil them with this love. We can spoil them by not training them in the ways of life to properly react to others. By praising and giving awards for just participating while not giving their best, is spoiling and teaching them that they can do no wrong. We are also teaching our children that they can always have their own way.
The children need to also learn of the love of God and to follow His laws.
4 Listen, Israel! The Lord our God is the only true God! 5 So love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and strength. 6 Memorize his laws 7 and tell them to your children over and over again. Dt 6:4–9
We do have to remember that the way we teach our children changes as they get older. As they grow their needs change and what they can understand changes. We need to help them to relate with others, and teach them appropriate ways to interact with them. Discussions on building friendships, how not to bully, and ways to appropriately act with those in authority.
4 Why do you fight and argue with each other? Isn’t it because you are full of selfish desires that fight to control your body? 2 You want something you don’t have, and you will do anything to get it Jas 4:1–3
We need to build up the children’s self-esteem with praising their talents and special gifts they were given by God. Encourage them to work at those talents they are good at, but don’t push too hard or they may back off.
3 I realize how kind God has been to me, and so I tell each of you not to think you are better than you really are. Use good sense and measure yourself by the amount of faith that God has given yo
u.  Ro 12:3
Using Words of Affirmation will help the children learn what is good and what is not. Use age appropriate language, time, and touch. For little ones: good job, I’m proud of you for trying, and keep working at it and you will get it. For older kids: great job, I knew you could do it, I know this is difficult for you how can I help you understand this?
As children and adults, we all need some form of the 5 Languages of Love. We also need to teach our children how to use these languages of love with those around them. This will help them to become well rounded adults.
How do you show affirmation to you kids?
 The Holy Bible: The Contemporary English Version. (1995). (Dt 6:4–9). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.
 The Holy Bible: The Contemporary English Version. (1995). (Jas 4:1–3). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.
 The Holy Bible: The Contemporary English Version. (1995). (Ro 12:3). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.