A Word of Hope

There is hope in raising our children in this crazy world. With unconditional love, our love that doesn’t judge, we can’t give enough. We can’t spoil them with this love. We can spoil them by not training them in the ways of life to properly react to others. By praising and giving awards for just participating while not giving their best, is spoiling and teaching them that they can do no wrong. We are also teaching our children that they can always have their own way.

The children need to also learn of the love of God and to follow His laws.

 

4 Listen, Israel! The Lord our God is the only true God! 5 So love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and strength. 6 Memorize his laws 7 and tell them to your children over and over again.[1] Dt 6:4–9

 

We do have to remember that the way we teach our children changes as they get older. As they grow their needs change and what they can understand changes. We need to help them to relate with others, and teach them appropriate ways to interact with them. Discussions on building friendships, how not to bully, and ways to appropriately act with those in authority.

 

4    Why do you fight and argue with each other? Isn’t it because you are full of selfish desires that fight to control your body? 2 You want something you don’t have, and you will do anything to get it[2] Jas 4:1–3

We need to build up the children’s self-esteem with praising their talents and special gifts they were given by God. Encourage them to work at those talents they are good at, but don’t push too hard or they may back off.

 

 

3 I realize how kind God has been to me, and so I tell each of you not to think you are better than you really are. Use good sense and measure yourself by the amount of faith that God has given yo

u. [3] Ro 12:3

 

Using Words of Affirmation will help the children learn what is good and what is not. Use age appropriate language, time, and touch. For little ones: good job, I’m proud of you for trying, and keep working at it and you will get it. For older kids: great job, I knew you could do it, I know this is difficult for you how can I help you understand this?

As children and adults, we all need some form of the 5 Languages of Love. We also need to teach our children how to use these languages of love with those around them. This will help them to become well rounded adults.

How do you show affirmation to you kids?

[1] The Holy Bible: The Contemporary English Version. (1995). (Dt 6:4–9). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.

[2] The Holy Bible: The Contemporary English Version. (1995). (Jas 4:1–3). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.

[3] The Holy Bible: The Contemporary English Version. (1995). (Ro 12:3). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.

Price Change

Announcement: We have decided to change the price of  “Bible Characters Through the Ages”

Two time traveling children want to meet the historical figures of the Bible starting with Adam, but in the past they lose their time travel machine. Can they find their way back home before time has changed? Then, can they return to meet another historical figure of the Bible? Read “Bible Characters Through the Ages” the series to share their adventures.

Then discuss the questions at the end of the books with your children. See how they would interact with the Bible Characters.-

Please write a review for the books you purchase.

 

Love Is The Foundation

The 5 Love Languages

By

Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

 

Chapter 1: Love Is The Foundation

 

Each of our children are different and need to be shown love in ways that will speak to them. If things change in our daily lives it can affect our children. Such as a change in jobs which demand more time for a parent to be away from home. Another change can be the parent that was always at home to begin a job away from home. The children can feel the change and they may feel like they aren’t loved as much because they aren’t getting the attention they were used to having. There can be many other changes in our lives that can affect how our children react.

Until we find out why they have a change in their behavior, they will feel like they are being deprived of love. It’s important to talk with them and question the changes they are going through. Make sure they don’t think you are mad at them.

They can fall behind in school, close themselves off from family and friends and won’t meet their potential. The child needs to know that your love isn’t based on what they do or don’t do, but that as a parent you love them no matter what. Tell them that you may not like what they do or say at times, but that you still love them.

In this age of instant media and social media I imagine it’s harder for parents to know the best way to approach their children. It seems like there is always something going on, we’re told things like “It’s all about me.” Everywhere we turn there is violence, which can cause a negative effect as well.

Families seem to be going in so many different directions and don’t have as much family time. When I was growing up it seemed like everyone went to church. It’s just what you did on Sunday morning. The only thing open was the hospital and a few restaurants. It was a day to spend with family. On Saturday you made sure you had the food you needed and gas in your car, if not you had to wait until Monday. I believe the change in having stores open on Sunday’s was the beginning of the downfall of families spending time together. It seems to be getting harder and harder to just have family time.

Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell have come up with labels for the different kids of love that all of us need especially children:

The 5 Love Languages are:

  • Physical touch
  • Words of affirmation
  • Quality time
  • Gifts
  • Acts of service

Physical touch

We all need some amount of touch. Some more than others. My husband will walk by me and run his hand across my shoulders. This gives me a warm feeling of his love, that he is reaching out to let me know he’s there and loves me. Frequently when I am cooking dinner he will come up behind me and kiss me on the neck. Without words he’s saying I love you and appreciate that you are making a meal for us to share.

For our kids we can show love in touch by tickling, wrestling, or a playful pat on the behind. Some children and adults need hugs and touch all of the time. Some don’t like to be touched as much, we’re all different. This can depend on how we were raised and how much love and affection we received. It’s also a personal thing that is due to how God put us together. Some of us also need to hear the words I love you.

Next time we’ll talk about: Words of affirmation.

What are some of the physical ways you reach out to others?

The 5 Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages

By: Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

 

I just learned of this book from some homeschool teachers. It’s a good book to use as discussion starters. I encourage you to buy the book and join in the discussion.

Each of us is different in how we experience love. As parents we are responsible to help our children to know that they are loved. We also need to figure out what each of our children need in order to feel loved. They must know that they are loved no matter what. We may not like their actions, but we still love them. Our unconditional love won’t spoil them. Giving of things rather than love and time is what can spoil a child. Keep in mind the age of the children, the way we show love may change as they get older.

They are facing so many more hurdles than we did. The social media can have a very negative affect on our children.

The 5 Love Languages are:

  • Physical touch
  • Words of affirmation
  • Quality time
  • Gifts
  • Acts of service

In the past we worried about self-esteem. A lot of parents went too far and praised the kids for everything. Giving awards for just being at the game, or activity. They lost the learning they should have from accepting that they can’t always win in life. The kids have a false sense of always being the best and that others should always praise them. They can also go in the opposite direction by thinking that they can’t do anything right and have bad self-esteem. Being a parent trying to walk the balance beam of helping our children become strong caring adults is very difficult. Learning the 5 Love Languages can be a big help in learning how to best reach out to our children. Remember to look at the stage your child is in and make adjustments in how you show the different love languages.

Have you read this book? If so how has it helped you? If not do you think this will help you understand you children better?

Countdown To Christmas 4

This week let’s bake the cookies for the family. Having the kids or grandkids help to make and decorate them is always fun. Make sure each of the kids has a part in the fun. At two they can pour something in the bowl (maybe with a little help) from the measuring cup. The three through four-year-old’s can do this themselves. Around six the can start to do the measuring. Show them the mark on the measuring cup and guide them to check the mark each time they add more of their ingredient.

This is my recipe for sugar cookies. One that most kids love and have fun making.

1 cup shortening

1 ¼ cup sugar

3 eggs

3 cups flour

3 t baking powder

½ t salt

1 t vanilla

Mix ingredients in order of the list. Drop by a spoonful on a cookie sheet. Or you can chill the dough and roll out to ¼ inch on a floured counter and use cookie cutters to make the shapes. Bake at 375 degrees 8 to 10 minutes. Edges will be slightly golden.

Once the cookies are baked and cooled let them have fun with frosting and decorating. This is my frosting for sugar cookies. It forms a light crust when dry.

4 cups of powdered sugar

½ stick of butter

½ teaspoon vanilla

a splash milk at a time until frosting is thick and smooth

Beat well between additions of milk to check consistency. This makes enough for a double batch of sugar cookies.

Then have colored sugar, sprinkles, and candies for decorating.

Another thing you can do with the kids is have them go through their toys. Tell them they can give toys or games that they don’t play with anymore. Pick the nicest looking toys or games and wrap them. Call a children’s hospital and see if there are children your kids can share their gifts with.

This will be a good lesson for them on sharing. As you give the gifts, have the kids talk with those receiving them how you can pray for them. Don’t visit too long, you don’t want to tire the kids out.

Please take time for yourself to rest. Don’t worry about things. Enjoy what you have ready. The time with family and friends is what is important. The Reason for the Season is to celebrate the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

Countdown to Christmas 2

How did last week go? Did you and the kids make or buy an Advent calendar? Send me a picture. I’d love to see it. 

Tell me about your winter picnic.

This week let’s start looking at the clothes everyone is going to wear. Do you sew or buy new outfits? Before everything is all picked over or there isn’t enough material to purchase for the outfits this is the week to get that organized.

This was two years ago.

 

For this year I have material to make coordinating outfits for our four grandchildren. I have a black crushed simulated velvet, and a pink satin like  material. The oldest is a  7-year-old girl that doesn’t like frills. I’m making her a long vest. Her brother is 6 and I will make him a vest too. Next is a 5-year-old girl and her almost 2-year-old sister. They will have the black material on the top and the long skirts will be the pink.

Do you all get dressed up for Christmas and Christmas Eve, or go casual? How did you dress when you were a child? Things have changed over the years. In the 50’s people dressed up very fancy for Christmas and church. Now everyone seems much more casual. The important thing is to be together.

Do you dress up or go casual for church? When talking with your children about dressing for church tell them we are to look our best for God. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but we should put our best foot forward. What’s important to Him is that you are in the right frame of mind when you come to worship Him.

Teach the children that when they go into worship that we’re to bring our concerns to Him. To pray asking for guidance, then listen to Him in the worship. To sing, pray, and feel the love of God around them.

Have fun this week deciding what everyone is going to wear. Are you going to be matching, have a color theme?

God bless, and have fun this week. Remember to take some time for yourself.

Give me some ideas to share with others that read the blog.

7 Steps For A Less Stressful Thanksgiving

If you aren’t careful getting ready for Thanksgiving can be very stressful. It seems like such a huge task. There are so many things to plan and prepare. Take a deep breath. You can do it. You need to make a plan for what will be done when. It will make things a lot easier.

  • Start planning now:

Where will the dinner be? Is there a home where you always have the dinner or does it go to a different family home each year?

How many will be coming? Having a few to a large group can make a difference for you if you let it bother you. Remember that the number is just a number, it’s the people gathering that make the difference.

If at your home, how will the table/tables be arraigned? What room of your home is best suited for your gathering.

  • Set a schedule:

What days are free to prepare the house for Thanksgiving? Use those days to start rearranging furniture if necessary.

What days will you be grocery shopping? Plan what you can buy ahead. Start grocery lists for each week with what you can buy.

What days will you get table decorations? Do you usually buy a floral piece for the center of the table? Start looking at what your local florist has. Talk with them about what you are looking for, the size and amount of money you would like to spend.

When can you start preparing the foods that can be done ahead of time? Depending on what you are making, you can make somethings a day or two ahead. This will take some of the stress away for you.

What time are you planning on dinner to be eaten? Once you know that you can look at what cooking you will be doing and the time it takes to prepare and cook.

  • Plan the menu:

What do you want at the meal? What are you planning to make? What/who are you asking for the extra foods?

  • Plan activities or crafts for kids when you need time to take care of something:

Have the kids make table decorations, Have the kids make place cards for the table.

  • Schedule shopping times for food:

Make a complete list of what you need. Look at recipes make sure you have everything.  Start buying the canned goods now to save time later.

  • Schedule times for cleaning:

Start in the beginning of the month for the heavy-duty things you need to have done. Keep up each week with normal cleaning. The day before just a quick run through. Spot wash floors – leave a thorough washing until after the celebration

  • Schedule downtime to rest:

Each day you need some me time. The day before take a little extra me time to reflect on what is ready and what needs to be done. On Thanksgiving start cooking the things that will take a long time or can be done ahead.

Stop and take a relaxing bath or sit in your favorite chair and read for an hour.

 

Christmas Give Away

Schedule your Central Florida group for a chance to win a free copy of “This Babe So Small.”

Contact Jann at jannwmartin@gmail.com to set up a workshop.

Workshop: Parents and kids

  •  will learn the basics on how to write a story
  • write their story together
  • share their story if they would like to with the group

Story time:

  • This Babe So Small
  • questions and answers with the author
  • book signing

The Word of God

The Word of God is the most important thing we can teach our children. We need to show them how that Word is part of every aspect of our daily lives.

When I get up in the morning the first thing I do is to say a prayer of thanks for bringing me through the night, and ask what God wants me to do today. Saying a prayer over each meal is also important in thanking God for the nourishment of the food to be eaten. As I meet the challenges through the day I ask for guidance. Then before I go to sleep I say the Lord’s Prayer and lift up each member of my family and others that are on my prayer list.

It’s important to lift our daily concerns and joys to God. If we pray without ceasing we will always be in God’s presence. This is something we should share with our children and grandchildren. They need to learn about God, and what he has done for us. They need to know of his great love for all of his people.

Gather your children and pray with them first thing in the morning. Let them add things that they are concerned, or excited about. Encourage them to pray during the day if they are struggling or excited about something. Remind them to pray when they eat their meals away from home.

At the dinner table let each of them add something of their day to the prayer. Use the meal time to talk with them and help them with any difficulties. Then at bedtime pray with each child and encourage them to thank God for watching over them through the day. Remind them that God is interested in everything that happens to them every minute of every day.

What other ways can you share God with your children?

 

Tyndale House Publishers. (2013). Holy Bible: New Living Translation (Dt 11:19). Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers.

 

Teacher’s Conferences

South Carolina Association of Christian Schools Convention

I attended the SCACS  http://christianeducation.org/ Convention last week. I met some wonderful people. I was able to teach two classes, “Helping Children Become Better Writers,” and “Do You Want To Be A Published Author?” Both classes were fun and the students were full of questions and suggestions for the other teachers.

I have a whole new group of friends to interact with and help the children become better writers. I’m always looking for new ideas to share on getting children excited about writing their stories.

Many of the teachers will be working with me through email to help them learn more about where to look for help in their writing as well. It was exciting to hear what they have already started to write. I pray that they will find the connections to gain agents and publishers.

Teaching something you have experience in is fun, a chance to meet new people, and an opportunity for you to learn more in your field. As you do research to prepare for your class quite often you come across something new, this helps you and the class when you share.

I have taught at the Florida League of Christian Schools https://www.lcs.education for four years and this was a wonderful opportunity for me at the South Carolina Association of Christian Schools Convention. I would love to go to other states and share these classes and hopefully more in the future. Do you have a conference where I can meet you?