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The 5 Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages

By: Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

 

I just learned of this book from some homeschool teachers. It’s a good book to use as discussion starters. I encourage you to buy the book and join in the discussion.

Each of us is different in how we experience love. As parents we are responsible to help our children to know that they are loved. We also need to figure out what each of our children need in order to feel loved. They must know that they are loved no matter what. We may not like their actions, but we still love them. Our unconditional love won’t spoil them. Giving of things rather than love and time is what can spoil a child. Keep in mind the age of the children, the way we show love may change as they get older.

They are facing so many more hurdles than we did. The social media can have a very negative affect on our children.

The 5 Love Languages are:

  • Physical touch
  • Words of affirmation
  • Quality time
  • Gifts
  • Acts of service

In the past we worried about self-esteem. A lot of parents went too far and praised the kids for everything. Giving awards for just being at the game, or activity. They lost the learning they should have from accepting that they can’t always win in life. The kids have a false sense of always being the best and that others should always praise them. They can also go in the opposite direction by thinking that they can’t do anything right and have bad self-esteem. Being a parent trying to walk the balance beam of helping our children become strong caring adults is very difficult. Learning the 5 Love Languages can be a big help in learning how to best reach out to our children. Remember to look at the stage your child is in and make adjustments in how you show the different love languages.

Have you read this book? If so how has it helped you? If not do you think this will help you understand you children better?

How Do You Teach Children Forgiveness?

1 John 1:8–9 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.[1]

 

 

Forgiveness is such an amazing  gift from God. It is also hard to accept this for ourselves and even harder to teach a child how to forgive.

Let’s start with verse eight we have to accept that we are sinful by nature. We are born into sin. A newborn baby sins because they only think of themselves and their needs. It will take a few years to learn to think of others needs and not just theirs. They will need to experience right and wrong so they can make knowledgeable choices. Then it is possible to teach a child how to forgive.

 

In verse nine we begin to teach children forgiveness by telling them that they need to ask God to forgive them for something that they did wrong.

I learned that lesson when I was about five. The neighbors bush had pretty white flowers that would make into a beautiful brides bouquet for my pretend wedding. It all went well until Mom asked me where I got the flowers. Then she asked if had gone to Mrs. Adcock and to see if I could pick them. Finding out that I hadn’t she walked me over to apologize for picking the flowers.

This is where we can begin to teach children forgiveness. At times they will hurt someone or take something that doesn’t belong to them; it’s natural for these things to happen. Your next step is to teach them to go to the person that they hurt or took one of their things and to apologize to them. Later, when you are alone with your child, talk to them about why they need to ask for forgiveness.

You can also bring up a time when they were hurt or had something taken from them. Ask them how they felt when they were hurt or their toy was taken away. This incident can now be used as teaching a child how to forgive. Have then tell you how they felt when the other child asked for forgiveness. Explain that their friend would also feel better when they were asked to forgive your child for something that had happened.

 

Now, you can tell your child that God will forgive them for the things that they have done wrong too. They should now say a prayer and ask God to forgive them and that they are sorry for doing something that they shouldn’t have done.

What are your experiences in teaching a child how to forgive?

[1] The New King James Version. (1982). (1 Jn 1:8–9). Nashville: Thomas Nelson.

 

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