The 10 Signs of Bullying 2. Loss of Appetite

Before we start on Loss of Appetite, I want to share a conversation with you.

Yesterday, I was talking with our 6-year-old granddaughter. She was making a list of friends on her paper. She had friends in one column and one name in the other column. I asked, “Why is there one name by itself?”

She answered, “She’s a bully.”

“Do you know why she’s a bully? Maybe she has troubles at home. Or maybe some other kids don’t treat her nice.”

“Yeah, she said she has trouble at home.”

“Can you try to be nice to her? It sounds like she could use a friend.”

“I’ll try.”

We have to grab opportunities like that to share with our children and grandchildren to help them grow up to be caring adults. Life is hard. Our kids need to learn what to do to help themselves and others.

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Have you noticed any change your child’s appetite?

Not interested in food?

Eats like there’s no tomorrow?

Either one can be a sign of depression or withdrawal from activities. This may be a way of coping with a difficult situation.

Another situation is your child comes home from school and is starved.

This is a good time to ask, “Are you growing again? You’re eating like your lunch I’m sending with you just isn’t enough.”

There could be two scenarios

  1. Someone is staling your child’s lunch or lunch money.
  2. They could be hiding somewhere during the lunch hour to avoid the bullies, and not able to eat.

Loss of Appetite, can happen at any age. Even an adult can experience difficulty in a new work or school situation.

Have you ever felt out of place?

Have you been bullied?

I remember being in middle school and feeling like I was always the last to be chosen on a team. On the weekends or vacations, I would take my phone-book down to the basement phone. I would go through the list calling all of my friends. They always seemed to be busy.

Slowly I would go back upstairs and put the phone-book away. It made me feel sad and lonely.

One day, I had enough and went for a walk. I had decided no one would care if I just ran away from home.

I just started walking. I ended up at a local church. The door was open and I didn’t see anyone. Tired from walking, I went in and sat in the back pew. After a little bit the pastor spotted me and came and sat down with me. I don’t remember what he said to me, but he made me feel better and I walked back home.

Nothing had changed with the others behavior, but I felt stronger and didn’t let it bother me as much.

It’s important to be aware of our children’s eating and emotional actions. Are they different all of a sudden. Make some time to talk alone with them. Let them know how important they are to you and your family. Help them to find the answers to their difficulty. Don’t just step in and take over, help them to learn ways to make things better for themselves.