Love Language #2 is Words of Affirmation they are important for all of us. We all need to hear we are doing something well. Even saying “You played a good game. Keep working that hard and you will continue to improve.” This lets your child know that you are paying attention and that you feel that they are trying hard to do well.
On the other had we have to be careful not to be too critical. Some children can be very sensitive and take criticism to mean that they can’t do things right. This can give them feelings of doubt about their abilities, and low self-esteem.
A little girl overhead some adults talking and thought they were talking about her. It hurt her feelings and she started crying and said that no one liked her and she couldn’t do anything right. We have probably all had times when we misunderstood something, but for children it’s really important to make sure a mis-understanding is corrected as soon as possible. Something like this can mentally scar them for life.
Raising a child is like walking on a tightrope. We’re never sure how what we say or that our reactions are being perceived right. Figuring out how much to touch our children, with their comfort and need level, is hard, especially when they can’t express themselves verbally yet. Then finding the right words to use to support them can be difficult too. We don’t want to praise too much and have them feel like they can do no wrong. We also want to build up their self-esteem, by encouraging them to keep
What we say to our children can and will have a lasting effect.
I remember Mom teaching me how to sew. She would encourage me and make gentle corrections when needed. I still love to sew and make the Christmas outfits for our grandchildren each year. I feel blessed to be able to have this gift.
What are your challenges with the first two Love Languages of touch and affirmation?